What do you do when you feel like you're becoming a person you don't want to be?
The other day, I was asked this question.
I was immediately reminded of a time in my life from years ago when I experienced this.
Not happy.
Judgmental.
Confrontational.
Those around me brought some of these things to my attention, but I didn’t choose to listen.
I perceived many of the remarks as judgements, attacks on my identity.
I didn’t identify with the above.
“There is no way this could be me,” I thought to myself.
It wasn’t until years down the road when I chose to look at myself in the mirror and ask the hard questions.
Am I happy with who I am?
Do I like the person I am becoming?
Do my behaviors align with the future me?
The answer was, “No.”
It was hard to accept the reality of the situation.
But, it was a much needed one.
This time of reflection helped me identify the next steps.
I started meditating. Silence helped me dig deeper and figure out what happiness meant to me.
I focused on bringing more positivity into my life. Going to places, doing and learning things that made me happy.
I sought out like-minded people. People who shared traits of the individual I wanted to become.
As someone who has been there and continues to be there from time to time, I say to you, “It is never too late to change the trajectory of your life.”
